Why do People Give Up on their Dreams?

Dr. Julie GurnerPersonal SuccessWhy do People Give Up on their Dreams?

Why do People Give Up on their Dreams?

When you were 9yrs old, you probably thought you could be an astronaut if you wanted to. When you were 16yrs old, you might have started to have more ‘realistic’ dreams to be a surgeon, and then at 19yrs old…after a few college courses, you might have just decided to do something else.  It’s the same process when you’re young, as when you age.

The Common Reasons People Give up?

1. It Got Hard – Yes, it’s true. Everything that requires work is instantly going to weed people out of the flock. We desperately want success to be easy – that’s the allure of the lottery, or even diet pills. There is a hope that maybe you could be instantly rich, or instantly have a great body….both most often require a lot of hard work. When some people discover this, they simply give up. The people who don’t, get the rewards. Be the person who perseveres.

2. You Got Scared – No one likes to fail, but you watch a few people flail and now you don’t even try. You don’t want the perceived humiliation or the risk. You doubt yourself. You stop taking chances, and decided to stick with something ‘safe.’ That ‘safe’ job might bore the tears out of you…but you know you will always have ‘enough,’ and you don’t fear failure.

3. You Got Discouraged – Let me give it to you straight. Most of your peers do not want to see your succeed. They will ask you ‘why are you doing this?’ or give you reasons to just give up, not be working, or distracting you. People want you to be ‘stuck,’ like them, or to make life ‘easier’ for yourself by just stepping into the grind and resigning. Successful people don’t listen to this…they’re on a mission.

4. You ‘Settled’ – This, to me, is the nail in the coffin of dreams: The moment you just resign and say…’Well, this is good enough.’ You justify it by saying things like you ‘have to grow up’ that maybe you have  a mortgage, and now you find reasons in life to stop this ‘nonsense’ of chasing your dream. Settling in any area of life steals a little bit of your soul. Did you ‘settle’ for the person you married? Your job? Your income? Chances are, in every area you ‘settled,’ you are unhappy, or secretly wishing for something different.

The media often fuels our ideas that being young, lucky and hitting it big is either going to happen or it’s not…and that’s simply not the case. While it certainly happens that way for some who might hit the lottery or stumble into the right place at the right time…much of success is just hard work.  It’s desire, action, and fearlessness…the things you don’t see behind the scenes.

Don’t let your dreams falls by the wayside because of the myriad of reasons life throws at you.  There are plenty of people who have had incredible success at ages you would never have expected. Plan, execute, and make it happen.

Remember when you had that optimism that you could do anything? You’re still that same person…don’t let your ‘adult’ fears and thoughts stop you from having the life you deserve.

Comments (2)

  1. I have a weird theory.

    In the past decade people are constantly dealing with distractions. Before it was just television. Now we have to deal with social media, video games, cell phones, distracting websites, etc.

    What this is done is changed our brain to move towards instant gratification and that instant dopamine shot.

    It’s hard to do your work and focus on goals when the payout is so far in the future and the payoff’s not guaranteed. Why practice when I can just surf the internet all day?

  2. 100% of my girlfriends (I am now 43) gave up on their life dreams because they met a man who expected them to support their dreams.

    100% of my girlfriends regret now regret the choices they made.

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