Laugh together again and recapture that spark. The secret is easier than you think, and you learned it when quite young. If you want to reconnect, there is no better way than to do something fun together.
Simply put – maybe you need to play together.
It doesn’t matter how old or young you are. Studies in adults, children and even animals shows that just playing reduces stress and helps take the edge off from the tense lives we often live. It makes us happier, it makes us feel more connected, and it even increases our sex drive.
I know, you’re not 5 years old and banging pans anymore, but doing fun things together builds a relationship like few things can. Why?
- They are shared experiences. We spend so much time at work/life alone that often doing something new together serves as wonderful reminders of why you were so smitten with this person to begin with. You used to likely spend more time together, and it’s in those times when you really have the opportunity to hear them laugh, and create memories.
- You’ve stopped ‘dating.’ It is not uncommon that once couples have been in a relationship for a while, they sometimes stop doing the little things that make relationships romantic or novel and you begin to become more “roommates” than lovers. A new experience or planning out fun experiences brings you closer.
- You have time together that does not involve responsibilities and obligations. That special spark that kept you together, and that gave you a kick in your step has somehow been pushed under the rug due to life’s demands…and if you don’t make time to change it, unfortunately, that is likely where it will stay.
If you have found that you’ve been in a relationship “rut,” or just want to see that old spark again, just doing something fun that you don’t normally do can be a real relationship builder.
Surprise your loved one, take time from your busy schedule, get a sitter, and do something unique. Rent a canoe or a boat, go sledding, look for sea glass, go to a cheesy film you both like, or do something that may take you out of your comfort zone that suits your personalities. It may take some planning…but in the end, you’ll be so glad you did. Even the smallest things can make such a big difference in how you feel – both about yourselves and each other.